Sophomore’s Sex Ed Guide
Take a peek into this glory hole of sexual information
Well, well, well. Welcome to Sophomore’s Sex Ed Guide. Inspired by the Ontario government’s decision to repeal the 2015 sex ed curriculum and bring back the 1998 version, this guide contains a load of information curated by sexual researchers, Simone Tissenbaum and Eva from “What’s My Body Doing,” and is designed to familiarize you with online resources and physical spaces (Toronto and abroad), that are just a click away.
The guide is divided into six sections: Sexuality, Gender, Sexual Health, Pleasure, Consent & Relationships, and Technology. To make space for as many resources as possible, they will only appear once. However, many of the resources provided have multiple purposes. So, even though they are listed in one section (let’s say Sexual Health), they can still be applicable for other topics (let’s say Technology/cyberbullying). “Places” includes various workshops, clinics, community events or bookstores that relate to sex education. “Media” contains links to podcasts, YouTube channels, zines, and Instagrammers that guide you through diverse topics about sex.
Finally, always assume there’s more to the resources than what is summarized below. While this guide is not a conclusive list—sex education is always expanding—it begins to fill in the gaps of the existing Ontario sex ed curriculum. Simone, Eva, and the Sophomore team provided clickable, informative, entertaining resources and more. So, we hope this serves your inquiring and horny minds well!
Queer sexuality education is important for sexual health, happy relationships, and pleasurable sexual experiences. Learning about queer identities and experiences is imperative to creating social change and decreasing homophobia and biphobia in our society. Below you’ll find locations that offer sexuality-related services and community events, as well as online platforms hosted by sex writers, educators, and enthusiasts.
City of Toronto LGBTQ+, counselling, mentorship programs, support groups community events, book clubs, movie camps
Glad Day Bookshop
LGBTQ+ bookstore, community events, dance parties, drag brunch, book clubs
Sexual Education Centre (SEC)
Rainbow Health Ontario
Health care resources, LGBTQ+, mental health counselling
2 Spirited People of The 1st Nations
Indigenous counselling, support, information for LGBTT2SQIA+
More resources: https://www.canvasprograms.ca/2lgbtq-services
Lesbian Sex Ed by Stevie Boebi
Safe sex tips, healthy relationships, pleasure, identity for queer women.
The Dildorks Podcast
Sex, dating, masturbating
Watts the Safeword
LGBTQ+ kink friendly sex ed, sex toys, porn, pride, explore kink safely
Ace in the Hole: An asexual sex blog
Sex blog, sexuality, relationships through the lens of asexuality
Chronic Sex Chat
Podcast on sexuality, disability, chronic illness, relationships, self-love
What’s My Body Doing
Pleasure, sex ed, sex research, safer sex for queer women, sexual health
DisabilityAfterDark by Andrew Gurza
Storytelling, queer, sex, disability
https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/disability-after-dark/id1151890990?mt=2 // http://www.andrewgurza.com/
Big Gay Review
Sex toy reviews, guides from cis gay male perspective https://thebiggayreview.com/
Women Lovin’: A Sexual Health Guide for Queer Women
Online booklet by Canada’s Source for HIV and hepatitis C information (CATIE)
Black bisexual sex writer
LGBT Youth Line
Confidential, anonymous, peer support for LGBTTQQ2SI youth.
Queering Sex Ed: Healthcare and you
A Planned Parenthood Toronto resource for LGBTQ+ folks navigating healthcare.
LGBTQ+ new source, sexuality, identity, and culture
Newsletter & Instagram account
Learning to be an LGTBTQ2S+ Ally: Terms & definitions to help you get started
Pamphlet by The AIDS Committee of Cambridge
Send the Right Message
LGBTQ Youth Initiative through Planned Parenthood Toronto on privilege, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, allyship, coming out
Our experiences with gender influences our sexuality, relationships, and identities. Unfortunately, resources for transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming people are even less available than those for heterosexual people. To help remedy this, you’ll find YouTube channels and podcasts featuring stories and interviews with people talking about identities, coming out, transition, sexual health, and pleasure. The 519, Rainbow Health, and Glad Day are also amazing spaces to gather more resources regarding gender.
A nonbinary trans YouTuber: gender euphoria, top surgery, pronouns, coming out.
A bi non-binary sex educator: gender, sex toys, trans sex ed
Gender Blender Podcast by Tai Jacob
Trans, Two Spirit, non-binary and (a)gender creatives, bodies, social movements, gender
Gender Stories Podcast by Alex Iantaffi
Writer and educator: gender interacts with relationships, spirituality and all aspects of our lives.
Meg-John and Justin Podcast
Podcast hosted by sex educators Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock: gender, sexuality, relationships.
Trans Student Educational Resources
Informational graphics on gender, visibility, trans rights, conferences, camps, workshops
Primed²: A guide for trans men into men
Info on STIs, safer sex, sexual activities
Brazen: A trans woman’s safer sex guide
Info on disclosure, safer sex, STIs
Jackson Bird: LGTBQ+ videos that make you think
Trans visibility, transition, bisexuality
Amplifying the stories of transgender people.
Sex toy reviews for transmasculine folks, sex education, erotica
Safer Sex for Trans Bodies
Transgender, non-binary, gender non-conforming, safer sex, dating tips, transition
Available in Spanish https://www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies
Pidgeon “Hi I’m intersex #firstvlog”
Essentially, if you are a person involved in, or contemplating participating in, sexual acts, everything that makes you, you, is relevant to your sexual health. That being said, sexual health is also inclusive of mental health and emotional well-being. This section focuses more specifically on medical services and/or resources that are available to help you navigate your health: physically, mentally, and emotionally—solely in terms of sexual and relational interactions.
Hassle Free Clinic Toronto
Medical and counselling sexual health services, STI/HIV testing, abortion referrals, birth control.
Planned Parenthood Toronto
In-person and online hub, resources on birth control, STIs
Consent Comes First Ryerson
List sexual health and gender resources in Toronto
Toronto support groups for survivors of sexual assault/violence:
Counselling, advocacy, referral services in Toronto (Canvas website):
SExT: Sex Education by Theatre
Sex educator, sexual health, relationships, pleasure
sex educator, sexual health, gender identity, social justice
Sexplanations with Dr. Doc
YouTube show hosted by clinical sexologist Lindsey Doe. Vaginal fluids, STIs, ingrown hairs vs herpes.
Teen Health Source
LGBTQ+, Planned Parenthood Toronto, inclusive sex education, birth control, bodies, pregnancy, STIs, online dating, cybersex, sexting
Scarleteen: Sex ed for the real world
Teen-focused, birth control, bodies, pregnancy, STIs
Native Youth Sexual Health Network
Canada and U.S. resources, sex education, harm reduction, Indigenous feminism, youth activism, human rights
The AIDS Committee of Cambridge sex, queer, pleasure, body-positive sexual health info.
Safer Sex Guide
An online booklet developed by Canada’s Source for HIV and hepatitis C information (CATIE) on STI risk of various sexual acts and tips for safer sex for all people.
Online publication, im(migrant) voices, sexuality education
GET PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)
Prevents you from getting HIV
One of the untouched gaps in sex education is pleasure. However, there is research suggesting that when pleasure is discussed in sex education, students are safer and healthier (1)(2). Pleasure is directly linked to consent and relationships—encouraging people to better understand the things that they enjoy helps them establish their boundaries and ask for what they want from sexual partners, in group activities or on their own. Below you’ll find sex stores, educational platforms, and sex educators who will help you unlearn restrictive stigmas.
Good for Her
Binders, packers, LGBTQ+, gender and sexuality supplies, books, workshops
“Good Vibes Only: A beginner’s guide to the best feminist sex shops across Canada” by Victoria Christie
Queer cartoonist, sex ed, sex toy comics
Online sex shop
Sex store in Montreal, info on sex, sexuality, pleasure, sexual health
Online sexual wellness store, pleasure positive, sexual wellness store
Intersectional, fatness, sexuality, POC, pleasure, sex
Sex Gets Real Podcast by Dawn Serra
Body-positive, LGBTQ+, inclusive, sex, healthy relationships, pleasure
Sex coach and educator, consent, sexual health, pleasure
Red Hot Suz
Dating, body-positivity, sex work, pleasure autonomy
Dating In NYC: The Podcast
Black and Latinx creatives, pleasure, masculinity, sex, dating
(1) Oliver, V., PhD., van, d. M., Larkin, J., PhD., & Flicker, S., PhD. (2013). If you teach them, they will come: Providers’ reactions to incorporating pleasure into youth sexual education. Canadian Journal of Public Health, 104(2), 142-147. https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/2e5f/6e4165810bbf884376fa263b5238c00b6b7b.pdf
(2) Fay, J. (2002). Teaching teens about sexual pleasure. SIECUS Report, 30(4), 12-17.
Consent, one of the absences in the 1998 sex ed curriculum, is paired with relationships in this chapter because consent requires two or more people having a conversation, often in relation to the body. Conversations on relationships (communication, navigation, and what constitutes safe and healthy relationships) are also absent from the sex ed curriculum. Below are workshops and platforms that advise you on how to have those conversations and how to heal from trauma.
Trauma Informed Polyamory: Building Safety and Security Workshop
Safety, security, boundary-setting, secure attachments, communication
Where Should We Begin? Podcast by Esther Perel
Relationships, dating, masculinity, marriage
Rave Ethics Zine
Consent, raves, alcohol
Trauma Queen Podcast hosted by Jimanekia Eborn
Queer sex educator and trauma expert healing, trauma, abusive relationships, sexual violence
New Hope Inc.
MassachusettsMassachusetts, organization, domestic/sexual violence, resources, graphics, healthy relationship
Sex and relationship blogger
Consent Comes First Ryerson
Healing from trauma: https://www.ryerson.ca/sexual-violence/get-support/healing-from-trauma/
Getting medical attention: https://www.ryerson.ca/sexual-violence/get-support/getting-medical-attention/
STARS Make Time for the Talk
Consent, communication, partners
Make Your Own Relationship User Guide
Love, healthy relationships, self-reflection, love language
Explicit Permission Educational Zine and Workbook
Family therapist Yana Tallon-Hicks, educational, unpacking consent, boundaries, relationships, queer couples
In a world where technology is integral to our daily lives, sexuality and technology are increasingly connected. If you’ve ever swiped on a dating app, used a vibrator, or watched porn, you’ve participated in sextech. Below you can find resources that show you why it’s more important than ever to be aware of how you can minimize your risks and maximize your benefits from using technological tools in your relationships and sex life.
Sex Ed in Color Podcast by Cameron Glover
Queer sex writer, sexuality professionals of colour, technology, porn, digisexuality, sextech
The Porn Conversation
Porn, educational, parent-friendly, members of the adult cinema industry, critical conversations, kids, teens, young adults
Removing explicit photos, teens, young adults, cyberbullying, online sexual harassment, Apps, emotional support, law, healthy relationships
Talking to Youth about Safer Sex & Tech
Guide to Talking about SexTech, tips, harm reduction, online dating, sexting, other sex/tech ventures
“Navigating Digital Information”
Tools for evaluating the validity of online information, online identities, browse without fear
Dr. Markie Twist
Expert on digisexuality
Future of Sex Podcast by Bryony Cole
Sextech, dating apps, sex robots, teledildonics
Queer sex toy reviewer, sex blogger, and sex writer.
Dangerous Lilly’s guide to toxic toys
Publication by app developer and sextech expert Alison Falk: newsletter, sexuality, technology, sex toys, data security
Pink & White Productions: Queer adult cinema, indie porn, diverse bodies, sexuality